The “Work/Life” Balance…

Being a mum is the most fulfilling and hardest aspect of my life…

There is so much talk about “work/life” balance, so many inspirational speakers out there who preach the “agile worker”, not needing to work 9-5, the “4-day week”, and a general feeling of being able to have it all… Ah don’t get me wrong, I get inspired by these talks I feel like I can take over the world! with my child in tow of course – sure my decision to leave my previous job for a more demanding role (one which involves travelling) was made after I started listening to inspirational speakers… However I sometimes ask myself what really work/life balance means for me who invented the phrase? Do I truly de-stress? Offload? If not, how to go about it?

We recently moved to a completely new part of London and have been trying to settle-in. This clashed with the demands of my new job, brain has been so clogged up that I find myself always catching up with work. I find myself eating at my desk, not exercising not even yoga!, not updating my blog, I’m bringing work home only to end up worrying about not hitting deadlines – as you all know, these all lead to sleepless nights…

I remember being excited about the move – a bigger place meant more space for my bubbly 3yr to play and I could get an au pair to live with us; Dream #2 is taking forever, apparently many of these women do not want “non-traditional” English families. In addition, I’ve struggled with finding fulltime childcare in the new area, many of the places were fully booked or only had morning/afternoon sessions so I had to eat my words and go for a childminder. This led to another palava – the lovely lady closes shop at 6pm everyday… Just imagine the looks I get when I start packing my bag to leave the office at 4:45pm.

Good thing is I manage to pack some fun into our evenings and weekends; social media generally helps to liven mummy’s mood – Snapchat for the evening (mornings too!)sharing of our random moments of craziness. Then going to the local park at the weekends, I’ve also discovered alot of fun activities just within walking distance – benefits of living in surbubia. We have Jungle Monkeyz which is a compact playgym, a swimming pool, ballet, percussion class and the good ol’ library so it’s not all bad news 🙂

As long as I make family my priority, then it’s all worth it… right? Till next time folks!

Temi ♥


Product Review – Bentonite Clay Mask

Hello hello!

This is one of my “old” posts – it was the first time I tried the clarifying method on both our hairs and was quite happy with the result so here goes…


Its product review time!

Though we’ve both only done this process once and we used the Aztec Bentonine green clay. Mummy and daughter both had protective styles in for at least 3wks prior so some hair TLC was highly needed.

I bought this product a couple of months back after watching a few videos so decided to try it out to clarify my hair.


The clarifying method” – a process of removing product buildup from your hair. Due to daily moisturising and co-washing products may not completely wash out of your hair and this buildup may make your hair look “gunky” or tangle easily, it may be time to clarify your hair!



  • Bentonine Green Clay
  • Apple Cider Vinegar
  • Plastic bowl
  • Plastic or wooden spatula (for mixing)
  • Cantu Moisturising Rinse-out Conditioner

Bentonine Green Clay


Apple Cider Vinegar (ACV)


Cantu Rinse-out Conditioner



Put one cup of the clay in the plastic bowl (apparently the mix reacts adversely with metal, so best to use plastic or wooden equipment).

Gradually add the ACV until you get a smooth but slightly thick mixture.
I then applied to sections of her hair (this was after I detangled the hair) and left on for 20mins.

Mama et Bebe


Rinsed off completely with plenty of water then co-washed with the Cantu rinse out conditioner (ran out of our Taliah Waajid conditioning co-wash).

Loosened curls☺️


I moisturised the hair and left it in sections and left it to style the next day. The hair was still soft and separated quite easily!

P.S. this is not the only way to “clarify” natural curly Afro hair, some people go for a simpler process of buying a clarifying shampoo and using that instead – you can find out whatever option works for you…



I must confess that I haven’t clarified either mine or the little madam’s hair since I wrote this post. I am starting to notice product buildup on her hair and was thinking of putting my research hat on to find out what to do, without realising I already had a draft of a solution patiently waiting in my blog! how ironic!

Anyways thanks for stopping by and taking time to read, have a lovely weekend ahead!